Unless you are dealing with a major grief issue, you just might be surprised at how malleable your mood is. You don’t have to let a bad mood ruin your day. It doesn’t matter why you are in a bad mood, only that you can take steps to change it. Are you ready? If so, try one of these techniques to get off that downward spiral and onto an upward one!
The next time you are feeling blue, try looking at yourself in the mirror and asking, “Am I committed to remaining in this mood?” I know this is a silly question, because who would be committed to staying in a bad mood. But this is just the thing to wake up your brain and let in a few rays of light. Now you are ready to consider feeling something different.
When you catch yourself filled with self-doubt, or just in a grumpy mood, say to yourself firmly, “Stop.” Now think of how you would like to feel: calm, energetic happy. Next, recall a memory of a time that you felt that emotion strongly. Indulge yourself in that memory until you feel a small shift in mood. Now you have turned yourself around from a downward direction. Your natural tendency to want to bounce back can take over and propel you upward.
If these two strategies fail to turn your mood around, it may be that you need to let it all out. Find a friend or family member who can be neutral. Set a time limit, say, five minutes. Now, rant about everything that is making you mad. Stick to the time limit. Are you now ready to let this mood go? If so, move on to discussing practical things you can do to improve the situation. Or, now that you’ve cleared out the negative stuff, simply focusing on something positive can do the trick. No trusted friend available? Why not rant to an empty chair.
Don’t let a bad mood stick around longer than it has to. You are in charge of your moods, not the other way around. Take action and have a great day!
Source: Psychologies Magazine, October 2012, p. 46.