Do you cave in under difficult circumstances? Do you wobble a little but rarely fall down when things get tough? Or are you able to roll with the punches, turning setbacks into opportunities? The answer to these questions determines your RQ, or resiliency quotient. Resiliency is the capacity to cope with stress and catastrophe, and individuals range in their ability to bounce back. The good news is, regardless of how you measure up in terms of resiliency, you can learn to be more resilient.
In general, there are several key factors that increase your resiliency: optimism, taking personal responsibility, and a positive and active approach to problem-solving. Optimism is imperative. Without the belief that things can improve, it becomes very hard to carry on. It is equally important to take personal responsibility for your recovery. This takes you out of victim-mode and into empowerment. Finally, your ability to cope comes down to having an open and adaptable response to the situation, one that encourages you to find a creative solution that offers at least relief and at best an opportunity for growth.
Are you ready to measure your RQ? The statements below discern your capacity to bounce back. The stronger you agree with the statements, the higher your RQ. Use this list to determine which areas are your strengths. This will let you know what you can draw on in difficult times. For example, if you already know you don’t take things personally, remember this when you find yourself in the middle of a workplace conflict. This will help you recover your equilibrium. Next, go through the statements and determine which aspects you want to improve. If you tend to worry about what you can’t influence, this lets you know you need to work on letting go of things you can’t do or can’t control. Here are the statements:
- In a difficult situation my thoughts turn to what can be done to put things right.
- I influence what I can, rather than worrying about what I can’t influence.
- I don’t take criticism personally.
- I generally manage to keep things in perspective.
- I am calm in a crisis.
- I’m good at finding solutions to new problems.
- I wouldn’t describe myself as an anxious person.
- I don’t tend to avoid conflict.
- I try to control my responses to events, rather than being a victim to my circumstances.
- I trust my intuition.
- I manage my stress levels well.
- I feel confident and secure in myself and my position.
So, how’s your RQ? Appreciate your strengths and use them to put you on an upward spiral of optimism and possibility. Recognize how well you do actually cope. And now you know some aspects that you can improve to feel less hopeless and more resilient. So the next time you encounter stress and difficulties, remember to roll with the punches, look on the bright side, and find a solution-oriented perspective.