Stop the Comparison Game
Do you compare yourself to other people? Of course you do, because this is human nature. It is only natural to experience envy. Envy isn’t all bad. It can be a motivator in the short-run. For example, if you envy your neighbor’s new car, this can motivate you to work harder in order to earn more money for your own new car. The problem with playing the comparison game is that envy can become a toxic emotion. Too much envy, and you will get stuck.
Let me explain. While it may be comforting to know that on any given measure – whether money, appearance or job status – you will outrank some, there are always others who will outrank you. This puts you on a downward spiral, a dangerous place to be if you want to keep energized towards reaching your goal.
And, when you are grappling with toxic envy, you often try to make yourself feel better by putting others down. The belief is that if I can tear you down, I will build myself up. But this practice doesn’t really put you on an upward spiral because deep down inside, you still don’t believe that YOU measure up.
So, stop playing the comparison game and start focusing on you. Here are three quick – yet effective – tips to put on an upward spiral:
- Shift your focus. Mentally run through those life circumstances in which you feel confident and appreciate yourself.
- Decide to find your own measure of success. Remember, you create your own vision and determine our own goals that are meaningful for you.
- Challenge yourself to be happy with your current situation. In fact, with a positive attitude, you are more likely to make improvements.
End the comparison game…focus on you…and enjoy the journey. After all, this is YOUR life so you might as well enjoy YOUR journey!