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You can’t escape from difficult people. The very fact that there are differences between people means that tension will result. Compound that with the fact that you (as well as your “difficult person”) may be tired, stressed and on overload. When that happens, differences turn into difficulties. Now you’re in a downward spiral loop. You’re already stressed, and this difficult person has added to your stress, so you get more annoyed, angry and frustrated, which puts you on even more of a downward spiral. The key to breaking this cycle is to let go of this person.
Watch this video to learn how you can stop the energy drain of carrying around the difficult people you encounter. Learn how to put two easy steps into action to turn your downward spiral into an upward one.
Now you have two strategies that work: (1) Ask yourself “Am I ready to let this person go?” and (2) Replace negative feelings with positive ones. So, even if that difficult person never changes or apologies or acknowledges that they are difficult, you have put yourself on an upward spiral. You have left this person on the river bank as you go on to have a great day. Use these steps to stop being a victim to other people’s problematic behaviors…and let me know how it goes!
There is nothing like a difficult person to send you on a downward spiral. Actually, it is not the person who is difficult, but their behavior. And some of the most challenging behaviors are those you experience as demanding, unreasonable and irrational. Sometimes you can just walk away, but more often than not, these types of difficult people are in your life to stay – perhaps a boss, an in-law or a family member. Regardless of whether you encounter these behaviors in your personal or professional life, there are practical strategies you can take to prevent yourself from spiraling downward. These include:
- Recognize and change your irrational beliefs.
- Don’t take it personally.
- Practice radical acceptance.
The YouTube episode below gives you the details.
So, now you have some tips for preventing that downward slide. But what if you actually want to put yourself on an upward spiral. Part 2 in this YouTube series puts you in your control zone with three more strategies:
- Take charge of your experience.
- Set limits.
- Don’t take the bait.
Check out the video below to get the details.
So, if you have a person you encounter on a regular basis whose behavior is unreasonable and demanding, you now have six strategies that empower you to move from victim to “thriver.” Put them into practice and find your upward spiral!!!
It’s easy to stay on an upward spiral, as long as everyone around you cooperates. But what if you have a demanding boss, a complaining in-law, a disgruntled teenager or a moody coworker? Chances are that you experience these behaviors as difficult, and when you encounter these individuals, you plummet from your upward spiral to a downward one. That’s why I created a new series called No More Difficult People. To give you strategies and tools to stop other people’s troubling behaviors from troubling you!
The No More Difficult People program shifts your focus from changing the difficult people in your life towards what you can always control – your responses, interpretations, actions, thoughts and feelings. From your control zone, you are empowered to unhook yourself from the difficult people in your life and create the positive outcomes you deserve.
Sound intriguing? Here are the six principles that form the foundation of this unique approach.
The Six Principles
- Differences between people are natural. Difficulties between people are circumstantial.
- The solution starts with me and not the other person.
- My interpretation of a behavior determines my experience.
- I am responsible for the way I feel. No one has to behave in a certain way for me to feel good.
- Interacting with people I perceive as difficult is an opportunity to grow.
- My power of influence is greatest when I am centered and neutral.
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Want more information? Watch the video below for an overview of this new series.
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Discover your freedom and power to create your own positive experiences, regardless of the difficult people in your life.